Parenthood is massive isn’t it? From the day you decide that you want to have children or, for some, from the moment that test turns positive, it takes up so much of your life. It becomes your life. I have been a Mum since conceiving our first baby, Teddy, in 2014. I started my blog then to document everything on this journey of motherhood and also as a way to vent off the never ending, all encompassing thoughts that have gone with it.
So many thoughts. So many experiences and feelings. It is a subject of varying opinions and approaches. A topic of overwhelming proportion. The sheer expanse of it, the fact it is forever and the responsibility of it all is unlike any other journey life can bring.
You can sometimes feel alone. Like you are the only one feeling what you are feeling. And then comes the comparisons. There are thousands of baby books lining the shelves, hundreds of blog posts detailing experiences and perspectives, not to mention the real life conversations with fellow parents, both old and new, all documenting how you should parent, how you can parent… it leaves the mind reeling sometimes!
When the people at My Baby Way contacted me, I was in the throes of adjusting to life with two little ones. I was trudging through the depths of PND and feeling very lonely. They sent me a link to their Facebook Page and, during a particularly lengthy night feed where I needed something to focus on in order to ward off slumber, I clicked on and discovered a whole host of helpful and informative videos.
My Baby Way is a web series, focusing on parents just like ourselves, documenting their journeys and addressing a whole range of thoughts, feelings and experiences that happen along the way. They capture the essence of what it is like to learn to be a parent. And it is so interesting and relatable, I have found myself binge watching them on a regular basis!
Take breastfeeding for example. There’s a couple, Ali and Joe, who I really found myself associating my own experiences with, and in one of the episodes, Ali describes what it is like to feel like life is just one non-stop breastfeeding session. Seeing this fellow mother, tired and hair scraped back with that all too familiar look, of ‘Wow, this is exhausting’ plastered all over her face, was such a comfort to me! “THERE!” I said to myself, “There, right there is exactly how I am feeling. And looking! Thank God I’m not the only one.”
Of course, you know when you’re in it that you aren’t the only one. You know someone out there is feeling it too. But actually seeing that person. It just made all the difference. Validation that you are not alone on the island. Your very own Wilson! (Brownie points for getting that reference!).
Getting a social life back was another episode’s topic with these two. That feeling that you are getting your life back, finding time to see people and piece in socialising around having a new baby. Ali, and her other half Joe, speak about the benefits of having fellow parents to socialise with and address how it helps maintain your sanity. Which it does. No one benefits from being in at home all day. As Ali says, ‘If you’re out then you look forward to getting home. If you’re home all day you’re just there and itching to get out.’
I could go on forever about episodes that I found interesting! We have recently been co-sleeping with Baby George, a whole new concept for us that we are still umming and ahhing about a lot in relation to whether or not it shall be a long term thing. A sweet couple, Erica and Nicholas, speak about their choice not to co-sleep with their little one in one episode and, hearing their fears about suffocation and creating a baby who becomes too attached, it made me realise that there are still a lot of doubts in my mind and that these were all perspectives and fears that I am still contemplating myself. It was nice to compare our views on things like this, not out of judgement or competition, but genuinely out of a mutual concern for what is the right thing to do for baby and ourselves.
Like I say, there are a whole load of videos and couples to watch and take interest in. Not to mention a lot of cuteness wrapped up in their little bundles of pride and joy to coo over. I have been binge watching the episodes during nap times, snack times, meal times… on the loo… Anywhere and anytime I have had a spare minute, I have tuned in to see more from what they all have to share. Especially on the days where I am run ragged and feeling like everyone else has got ‘it’ together… whatever ‘it’ actually is?!
All these little snippets showing thoughts and feelings that are SO akin to my own have just been heart warmingly reassuring and unbelievably comforting. A web series forum that encourages us all to find our own Baby Way, and that’s passionate about sharing and encouraging the stories of people whom are transitioning into parenthood, without any dictation, finger-pointing and judgement. Hurrah! That’s what I say!
This was a Sponsored post, however all opinions are my own.